Today, two weeks after our mother passed, my siblings and I gathered together at my sister’s house to write the thank you cards to all the people that donated to her memorials, sent flowers, stamps, food etc. With four pens doing the work at once, it took very little time. As we wrote, we laughed and shared stories of Mom, a few tears were shed and more than once it was said, “We should write a book.” I kept thinking about that on my way home. I know absolutely nothing about writing a book, but I do know how to do a blog.
Our mother was just three days shy of turning 103 years old on the day she went to heaven. She was born in 1914. Can you imagine the changes she witnessed as she lived 100+ years? She was such a unique person. Fun, stubborn, furiously independent, adventurous, faithful were all words used over and over to describe her. Shortly after her 100th birthday, because of failing eyesight, she finally gave in, gave up her home and moved in with my sister, Carolyn. It was extremely difficult for her to do. The downward spiral in her physical health and her mental alertness was hard to witness, but we were all comforted by the loving, tender care our sister gave her in her final years. We have all come to realize the opportunity we had to get a peak inside the world of an aging person and the trials they go through. I have three close friends who have just gone through or who are dealing with this very thing with their parents right now. It is something most of us deal with at some point in our lives. There will be no rhyme or reason to the stories I write telling of my siblings and my experiences with our aging mother, I will write them as they come to me. My hope is that by sharing our stories, we can help someone else who is going through this with their parent, assure them they are not alone, the emotions they are going through and the things they are dealing with are a common experience they share with many other people. And maybe we can help you see into the mind of their elderly loved one who loses just a little bit more every single day. And maybe we can help future care takers see the struggles, sacrifices and ultimately the huge blessings that comes with taking care of mother.